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“Knowledge has to be improved, challenged, and increased constantly, or it vanishes”.
To be the best at what you do, your quest for knowledge should be unrelenting! I have always liked learning new things and from the time I was old enough to read I would spend hours reading anything I could get my hands on. Some things I understood first time round, others I understood better when I revisited them years later. I suppose you could call me a perpetual student!
My quest for knowledge has stood me in good stead over the years – and have allowed me to reinvent myself and or to adapt to new challenges as they come. I recall when I ventured out on my journey into self-employment I couldn’t get enough of what was then “Business Link”. I spent several hours a day trawling the web for anything that would inform my business plan.
I realised also that not everything I needed to know would be free, but that some information and or ‘know how’ came at a cost. So I set out my learning and development programme and earmarked the things that I would have to pay for immediately in order to present an authentic service to my prospective clients. I knew that in doing this, I would be investing in my future and in the sustainability of my business.
Over the years I have spent several hundred pounds on learning new skills and on my personal and professional development and I haven’t so far regretted a penny. And I will carry on spending where I need to, in order to grow and develop and be the best me.
There is also the investment in time and energy. Some of the events and training sessions that I attended involved trecking across London. I recall one such trek when I was attending Capel Manor College to undergo my 6 week floral decoration training. This involved three hours return each day on the Northern Line – longer if I had to take the bus. And… For one of those weeks it snowed all week – but I persevered because achieving that floristry qualification was part of my development plan.
So why am I telling you all this? Well, I am now in the business of offering professional services to self-employed and small business owners and I am flabbergasted at how many business owners scrimp at paying for their personal and business development. If it is not free, they are not interested.
I get requests like, “could you show me how to do that?” Or else, I get the “well it sounds really Interesting but I can’t afford it!” My services are ethically priced because I do take into account that startups in particular have challenging financial issues – after all, I was once a startup! Furthermore most of my services involve pro-bono elements and complimentary offers to carefully selected clients (under my “one good turn deserves another” policy). But I could never give away all my services for free, because that would diminish the value of my work!
My parting comment is “ignore your personal development at your peril – the saying knowledge is power is very true!”
Does anyone else out there have this problem? I would love to hear from you.
Being a self employed or a small business owner means that the buck stops with you, especially in the early days when you are the chief cook and bottle washer. You wear all the hats, Director, Accountant, Lawyer, Receptionist, Administrator – you name it, you are it. Pretty daunting, isn’t it?
In the corporate world, ignorance of the law is no excuse and so it is important that as small business owners we develop an awareness of the legal issues that matter and equip ourselves with at least a working knowledge of the relevant areas of the law. This should form part of our professional development plan.
We are staging a series of Legal Seminars and Workshops that will aim to give self employed and small business owners an overview of various aspects of the law. The first in the series focuses on elements of Contract Law, you can find details here: http://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/so-what-about-contracts-tickets-4938337701
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It has been a bit of a revelation that very often when I am called in to work on a project, nine out of ten times, it’s because of unfinished work that started off brilliantly, but which fell by the way because there was no one there to see it through to its conclusion. In today’s work place, everyone wants to be the ideas person, but no one want to do the work that is required to realise the idea. Perhaps this is a reflection of society, where patience is not a virtue, and where everyone wants everything to be done immediately.
According to Belbin, my weaknesses as a completer/finisher are that I have a tendency to be over-anxious and have difficulty letting go and delegating work. To a great extent this is true, since by nature I am quite an organised person, a bit of a perfectionist, and never one to leave anything unfinished. And when it comes to delegating, well, I am rooted in the belief that no one can do ‘it’ better than I can!
Needless to say, I sometimes find it quite frustrating to design systems for businesses. Clients do not always want perfection, they want quick fixes. The challenge for me is to convince them that waiting that little bit longer, and perhaps spending that little bit extra is what’s needed to fix the problem in their business. There have been the odd occasions where I have had to decline working on a project where I strongly suspect that doing so would compromise my standard of work. And by the way, this nonchalant attitude is not limited to small businesses, bigger companies also have a less than professional approach to good systems and processes.
A completer/finisher values the satisfaction to be gained from planning a project, executing a project and then seeing it through to its conclusion. Quite recently I was called in to design an administrative system for a small business. When I arrived I did my diagnostic exercise and found that whilst there were some excellent ideas for systems and processes already in place, no one had spent the time to actually document and share these. So in effect, the office was trudging along quite inefficiently.
Using information and other material that was already available from work that various members of staff had started but left unfinished, I was able to:
- organise electronic and paper manuals setting out the systems and processes that underpin the business;
- design templates for office documents
- make recommendations for data security and
- set up electronic calendars
All these documents and templates are now housed in shared electronic folders which means everyone in the business have access to the same information. The result has been a definite increase in efficiency since far less time is wasted searching for documents, and duplicating processes.
I really do enjoy bringing order to organisational chaos. And with today’s technology this is made so much easier with all the cloud computing programmes and simple software
applications such as Microsoft Office that are available on the market.
So, are you a completer/finisher? Is there a member of your team that you can rely on to complete projects? If not, then you could be working harder but not smarter. Hire a completer/finisher now and watch your business efficiency increase tenfold.
This article has been brought to you by Cay Moore, Owner of Cay Moore Associates and Creative Director at Cay Moore Events
Ever heard that saying before?
I have pondered over the last few weeks on the saga involving Vicky Price and Chris Huhne. I know all the furore has died down now, but I couldn’t help thinking how aptly their situation demonstrates that lying and deception are never, ever the right option.
Apart from knowing that Chris Huhne was a Member of Parliament, I knew nothing of Vicky Price or the scandal that seems to have surrounded them both, prior to this penalty point saga. I do think however, that the whole affair is quite sad, especially as the entire family, will most likely be negatively affected.
Vicky Price alleged that she was coerced into taking her husband’s speeding points. The trial judge was not convinced. However, approaching this from a completely feminine perspective, we will never know what pressure Vicky Price was subjected to before she agreed to this act.
From all the news reports, Vicky seems to have suffered most of the criticisms, while her husband whose original actions form the root of the affair seems to have received a more sympathetic response. Much has been made of the fact that she is highly intelligent and should have known better. But sometimes, when it comes to affairs of the heart, intelligence counts for nothing as some women who seem tough as nails in other aspects of their lives, are often soft as putty when it comes to emotional matters.
This penalty points incident happened ten years ago, when regardless of the state of their relationship, they were both living as husband and wife with a family unit to maintain. Whilst not in any way meaning to condone some of her actions, we know very well, that women will go to any ends to protect their family, no less so in the circles in which these two parties operated. After all, the political , personal and financial stakes for both of them were very high.
Then we have the issue of the husband’s affair, which ultimately led to the total breakdown of the marriage and which no doubt tipped her over the edge – ‘hell hath no fury than a woman scorned’ and woe betide the man who forgets that!
It is very hard to comment without sounding judgmental, but I have reflected on this issue from a christian perspective ever since it first came to light, and more so in the past few weeks since the trial. And I have asked myself the question, what would I have done differently if I were Vicky Price? I cast my mind back to an article I wrote in March of last year about our calling here on earth in our unique position as women. That article extolled the virtues of being a Proverb 31 woman i.e. trustworthy, resourceful, industrious, generous, with excellent domestic as well as housekeeping skills, and a ‘fear of God’.
And so I would like to think that if I found myself in the same or similar situation as Vicky Price at any time in my life, that the last on the list of those virtues (‘fear of God’) would enable me to make the right decision. But then, we are all human with all the human frailties that comes with the human condition!
May God strengthen us women to always make the right decisions whatever the circumstance.
Those of you who are business people will somehow resonate with this, I am sure. Life as a business person gets so hectic, especially if you are a one man band. So hectic in fact, that sometimes, driven by the adrenalin and the buzz that you get from building your business, you lose touch with your inner-self. I guess that’s what happened to me just before Christmas. Things were going so well, business growing and expanding, plans for new projects in the pipeline and very much looking forward to the Christmas season. But a visit to the doctor on account of a swollen knee, which then led to a Health MOT soon stopped me in my tracks!
Routine checks revealed that I was very anemic. Blood transfusion was contemplated although thankfully not carried out. But a stark warning to REST, drink lots of fluids especially water and a prescription of high dosages of folic acid and iron tablets meant that I had no choice but to heed the doctor’s orders. This have meant absolutely no work, no social media and a reduction in my workload – except for honoring outstanding contracts.
So, for those of you who have wondered where I am, I have been resting at a “Place called Park”.
Just catching up slowly and with time enough to wish you all a fantastic New Year ahead, and to urge you to take regular stops on your journey on the “Busyness Bus”, otherwise you too might end up at a “Place called Park”. Which mind you is not a bad place to visit when all is said and done, albeit not under the same circumstances that got me there!
Wishing you all a Blessed 2013
PS – If you haven’t had a health MOT – especially if you are over 40 years old, then I urge you to have one done now. Getting regular checks will avoid any nasty surprises. But most importantly, listen to your body.
So, last year I posted this very sceptical blog on the ‘unholy alliance’ between Cam and Clegg. I think, a vast multitude of you will join me in saying that we are not surprised as to how things are panning out as the results in the recent May elections showed.
OK. let’s do the autopsy. How long has this marriage been? I have lost track, it has been such a loveless, lacklustre, boring affair that anniversay date has gone unnoticed for me. You see, this ‘coalition thing’ has been the type of marriage that no-one in the family wants but the couple decides they are going to do it anyway? You know the type I am talking about don’t you – every family has at least one of these to contend with. It’s the type of marriage where when there is a family gathering, and the said couple enters the room, all the “aunties” (and sometimes some uncles) huddle in a corner, give each other the eye, push their mouths up at the couple and snigger under their breath. And doesn’t this ‘alliance’ between Cam and Clegg falter under scrutiny!
In contrast to the image last year or whenever it was, where they strolled out to the Gardens all smiles, to meet reporters and to announce their ‘marriage’, quite recently, the body language has been markedly different. They stand poles apart at News Conferences, they speak separately, not in unison anymore.
However, one thing that has remained the same is Cameron’s aggressive stance and Clegg’s subdued, defeatest demeanor. But what did we expect? In my blog last year, or whenever it was, I observed the coalition as an ‘unholy alliance with the balance of power firmly tipped in favour of Cameron.
So now, what we have are all the aunties in both camps (i.e. the people including you and me who voted in the May elections) wagging a finger, giving each other the eye, pushing up our mouths and saying loud and clear as the aunties do “we told you so!”
So once again, don’t let your business be a victim of the Cam and Clegg effect – remind yourself of the things to consider before you partner with anyone that I set out in my blog last year or whenever it was and be careful where you lay your bed!
This Blog Post is a ‘tongue in cheek commentary on the Coalition governmet. The views are my personal views and do not reflect those of Cay Moore’s Associates.
Originally posted on Cay_Moore:
Call me a sceptic, but from the moment I saw Cam and Clegg in that garden on the evening of the election results last year, I knew something was very odd. Well, apart from the fact that they look as if they were somehow related by blood!
You see two things came to my mind at the time:
- Cameron is too much of a strong personality to really want a coalition government, and the converse could be said of Clegg – too “soft” to handle Cam.
- This coalition is an unholy alliance that would end in tears. You know, the kind of relationship that you try to warn your best friend about, because you have a gut feeling that it won’t work?
One year on, and it seems that my instincts were right. Cam and Clegg aka Tory and Lib Dem do not present a perfect fit. I don’t care what the theory says, but in practice there is a complete imbalance in the allocation of power, tipped totally in favour of Cameron and the Tories.
“When life hands you a lemon, make lemonade.” “When one door closes, another will open.”
These are just some of the quotations that we are familiar with, words used to console ourselves in the face of adversity. But we all know that it is easier said than done. After all, when that adversity is being made redundant, or losing your only means of livelihood. And when you know there is a mortgage to be paid, young family to support, it can be daunting.
In times like these we need more than a few quotations to see us through. We need a strong faith and belief in something other than ourselves that will guide and take us to that positive destination. For me that is my faith and belief in a God who not only created me, but who promised, that he would never take me to a place where I cannot survive.
And so it was on the 31st of July 2009, after several months of due diligence, and consultations and toings and froings with management and trade unions that I switched off my computer for the last time.
By the time I had packed away the last items from my desk and walked away from the building where I had worked for nearly twenty years, I knew there and then, that I wanted to do something completely different with my life. I wanted to tap into my creative skills and talents, and to use these to provide services that I really enjoyed. I wanted to do things for the good of others in my community, my church, my family, my friends.
Losing your job can be very demoralising, and unless you have the confidence in your abilities, and a strong belief in your self-worth, you may find yourself falling into the clutches of despair. But there is help available and you do not have to go through the process alone. O.K., as far as I am concerned, there is still a lot that could be done to support those people (men and women) over the age of forty who lose their job, but there is still some support available.
If you are faced with redundancy, in most cases, your employer must provide you with support during the process. Some very good employers will offer post redundancy support albeit for a limited period. I would advise you to take up all available offers of help.
I do not want to make it sound too simplistic, because there will be ups and downs. Particularly, during the first few weeks/months that you are at home thinking about what you are actually going to do or how you are actually going to go about achieving the goals that you have set yourself. But with a strong will and enough determination and lots of patience, you can get there. I speak from experience, and I will briefly share some of these experiences with you here in the form of some do’s and dont’s.
Things to do before, during and after losing your job through redundancy or otherwise:
- Do take all the available help from your employers. Use this time to ask as many questions you like about the redundancy or circumstances surrounding your job loss, your employers are legally obliged to give you adequate support during the process;
- Do complete a skills audit, think about all the things you are good at, the things you enjoy doing and the skills that you might need to upgrade. I wish I had actually done this whilst I was still in employment, because there is a wealth of opportunity for you to make a living from your skills whilst still in employment. For example, if you are good at cake baking but your paid job is being an accountant, you could set up a cake business and earn extra income outside of your 9 to 5 job!
- Do update your current cv or prepare a cv if you haven’t already got one. CV’s have become hugely competitive tools, especially in the current job climate and you may need help with perfecting your CV, particularly if it’s your first time of putting one together. There is a very good book on the market 7 Keys to a Winning CV by Mildred Talabi, ISBN 978-0857191588 available from Amazon, Waterstones, WH Smith and other good bookstores which you might find very useful.
- Do not bury your head in the sand. Face up to your situation and talk about it to whoever you feel comfortable, your work colleagues, your family, your friends, employer advisors etc. The more you confront the situation, the stronger you will become in dealing with the issues that need sorting out;
- Do let people you know aware of your impending situation. They might be able to offer you help in so many different ways. If they don’t know, they can’t help;
- Do embark on personal development – if you don’t invest in yourself, no one else will;
- Do network – there are a variety of ways of networking for free, contrary to popular belief. Fact is, it is not what you know, but who you know. You will not get that new job, or launch your business by staying indoors.
- Do form good habits in the early days when you are at home. Advice on this issue tends to differ, but I would recommend that you do not become a slob or a couch potato. Form the habit of getting up at a reasonable time each day, and dressing as if you were going outside of your home, even if it is down to the shops. Slopping around in your dressing gown all day, will not do your self-esteem any good, and will not stand you in good stead when it is time to go back out to work. It is very easy to develop bad habits!
- Do keep your spirits up – a positive outlook will take you far. A prospective employer or prospective customer will not appreciate it if you are negative about what or how you are presenting.
- And finally, remind yourself daily that no matter how dire the situation might seem two things remain true: ‘there is life after redundancy’ and ‘this too will pass!’
Copyright 2012 Cay Moore All rights reserved
The Stations of the Cross refer to a series of pictures or other artistic representations used to depict the last events leading to the crucifixion of Jesus Christ. Although commonly used in conjunction with prayer and meditation as a spiritual devotion during Easter, they can be used at any time of the year.
St Barnabas Church in Mitcham holds a beautiful devotional on Good Friday each year at 2:00p.m. Yesterday’s service was led by Fr. Joabe Cavalcanti and Rev Trudy Payne and I have included some excerpts from the devotional below. If you are not able to get to a service near you, then perhaps just reflecting on this devotional might keep you in touch with the most important event in the Christian Calendar.
Station 1: Jesus is condemned to death (Matthew 27:22-26) Meditation and Prayer Pilate asked what crime Jesus had committed. It was a good question. Jesus has annoyed the religious leaders, of that there was no doubt. He had been critical of the social and religious structures. He had healed the villagers; he had told stories to the crowds; He was probably a threat to law and order but was this enough to condemn him, to end his life? But he would not defend himself – the storyteller was silent now and the crowd was noisy and Pilate handed him over to be crucified. Let us pray for all who administer justice, all who face trial this day, all those incarcerated and those falsely imprisoned.
Station 2: Jesus takes up his cross (Mark 15: 16-20) Meditation and Prayer Soldiers taking the chance for a bit of fun. They had a heavy day ahead. Soon they would have to put on their public face – Disciplined, controlled, efficient. But for now a bit of a lark with the lads with no risk of recrimination. Dead men tell no stories, and Jesus was going his death.
We pray that we might give our lives to the service of God, accepting the trials and difficulties of the pilgrimage of this earthly life.
Station 3: Jesus falls for the first time (John 12: 23-25) Meditation and Prayer Jesus was exhausted. He was in pain. He was going to his death. The cross was heavy and he fell. He was flesh and blood like us, he was struggling.
We pray for all who feel weighed down by anxiety, stress or concern for those whom they love.
Station 4: Jesus meets his Mother (Luke 2: 188.8.131.52) Meditation and Prayer She was going to be there at his end – She who had been there with Him at his beginning. She was his Mother. She had fed him and cradled him and watched over his growing. Whatever he had said and done, He was still her son and she would not desert him now. Whatever pain of his she could embrace she would. And in the meeting of their eyes there was love, suffering and shining.
We pray for all parents, those who look after loved ones who are sick and suffering and children who suffer at the hands of others.
Station 5: Simon of Syrene helps Jesus to carry his cross (Luke 23:26) Meditation and Prayer Simon of Cyrene, what a tale you have to tell! You helped Jesus. You gave him your strength on the streets of Jerusalem. Willing or unwilling, You, Simon have become a part of his story, and he part of yours, for you helped him, when he needed you. What would we give to be Simon?
We pray for all who have helped us on our Journey of faith. For all who are struggling with their faith at this time and all who have fallen away from the Church.
Station 6: Veronica wipes the face of Jesus (Matthew 25: 37 – 40) Meditation and Prayer Wiping faces, faces full of sweat and tears. Wiping faces is something we try to do gently and lovingly; something that cleanses and soothes. For those in pain or in trouble, wanting them to know that they are loved and cherished. And when we wipe the faces of God’s little ones we are wiping the face of God.
We pray for those who bring comfort and care to others. For all who work in the medical profession and all involved in with aid agencies.
Station 7: Jesus falls a second time (Isaiah 53:7) Meditation and Prayer I am finding it hard to watch you Jesus, to see you struggling, to see you on the ground. Into your silence I want to shout: ‘Why do we keep on hurting you? What have you done wrong?’
We pray for those caught up in warfare, for victims of terrorism, and those who lie in poverty because of the greed and injustice of others.
Station 8: Jesus meets the women of Jerusalem (Luke 23: 27 -28) Meditation and Prayer Weep for the mothers and children of Jerusalem, for Israeli and Palestinian, for Jew, Moslem and Christian, for the strangers in their midst. Pray for the peace of Jerusalem. Pray that her people may live together in justice. Pray that all people may live together in peace.
We pray for those who eagerly await the coming of the Kingdom and who try to witness to it as a present reality in their work for justice and peace.
Station 9: Jesus falls a third time (John 15: 18 – 20) Meditation and Prayer I am not sure if I can watch you much longer. In his pain I see my pain, in his falling I feel myself falling, in his cross … in his cross I am included. He carried it for me – for me, and my enemies, and my friends.
We pray for those whom we love, those whom we struggle to like and those who find us difficult; for the grace to truly accept difference.
Station 10: Jesus is stripped of his garments (March 15: 22 – 24) Meditation and Prayer Stripped now – of clothing, of disciples, of friends. Alone, naked and vulnerable, with nothing to protect you from the pain to come.
We pray for the downtrodden and the rejected. For the refugee, the victim of prejudice, all who are deprived of their rights and freedom.
Station 11: Jesus is nailed to the cross (Luke 23:33, 48, 49 Meditation and Prayer We look on from a distance: A distance of time and space and culture, and yet even for us it hurts to watch Jesus dying. It hurts to know that we are rescued. It hurts to know that we are cherished and loved.
We pray for all who contemplate ending their own lives. Those who work in hospices and face death daily and for those who await execution and can find no joy in being alive.
Station 12: Jesus speaks to his mother (John 19: 25 – 27) Meditation and Prayer On the cross, Jesus gives his mother to us. As Eve was the Mother of All the living, the Blessed Virgin now becomes the Mother of all Humankind. Mary, the Christ-bearer, is also the bearer of a new creation.
Station 13: Jesus Dies (Matthew 27: 45 – 46) Meditation and Prayer And the sun was darkened, and the veil of the temple was rent in the midst. And when Jesus had cried with a loud voice, he said, ‘Father, into thy hands I commend my spirit; and having said thus, he gave up the ghost. (Luke 23: 44 – 46)
Station 14: Jesus is taken down from the cross (Mark 15: 42 -45) Meditation and Prayer Jesus is dead and lies in the arms of his mother. Death is hard and final. And yet, whatever happens on this earth, children never die to their mothers. In the memory of those who love them, loved ones remain. And for us, and for all God’s people, our hope is safe in God. From the swaddling bands to grave clothes, all the days of our living and dying, we are cradled and wrapped in God’s love.
We pray for all families and especially those which have experienced the death of a child. We pray for all who mourn with no hope in the resurrection.
I will not boast in anything, No gifts, no power, no wisdom; But I will boast in Jesus Christ, His death and resurrection. Why should I gain from his reward? I cannot give an answer; But this I know with all my heart, His wounds have paid my ransom. From the Hymn ‘How deep the Father’s love for You’ by Stuart Townend ©Kingsway’s Thank You music
St Barnabas Church can be contacted at the following address. St Barnabas Vicarage 46 Thirsk Road Mitcham Surrey CR4 2BD http://www.stbarnabasmitcham.org/events.php
Do come and visit with us, a warm welcome awaits you!
© Cay Moore 2012 All Rights Reserved
So on the 8th of March the World celebrated International Women’s Day in recognition of women who have moved and shaken the world – past and present.
I want to reflect on International Women’s Day from a different perspective, I want to take us back to the beginning, when God was with Adam in the Garden of Eden and said to Adam, you are not really happy, are you? You are not really complete are you? Go and look among all the creatures that I have already created and see if you can find a companion. By the time Adam had named all the animals, it was pretty clear that none could be a suitable counterpart.
“So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” (Genesis 2, 21-23).
And why am I going back here? Because I want to remind us women that from the beginning, we were formed for a purpose. We were formed to do great things, Adam could not exist without a woman. But let’s not kid ourselves, because the reverse is also true, Eve could not have existed without Adam.
However, as women we need to be mindful of our purpose here on earth. Let us not make the same mistakes that Eve made. In the creation story, Eve is the main character, a mover and a shaker, she is portrayed as being fiercely independent and strong-minded. But in retrospect, the outcome of her actions, could probably also warrant the descriptions either of arrogance or naivety?
What I want us to do is to look into ourselves and analyse who we are as women, individually and collectively. It doesn’t matter whether you are married or single, I want you to recognise that your purpose on this earth is very, very significant.
In Proverbs chapter 31, verses 10 – 31, we see the definition of a what a strong, virtuous woman should be like. They include characteristics such as trustworthiness, resourcefulness, foresight, industriousness, generosity, domestic skills, business skills and fear of God.
Don’t bother about the skeptics who ridicule the definition, as being just a wife skivvy. If you are or are striving to be a Proverbs 31 woman, you will know that you are anything but. You will know, that as the Proverb itself states, “you, woman, are far more precious than jewels”.
Ruth is one of those women who epitomises a Proverbs 31 woman. (summary credited to http://www.bible-topten.com/heroines.htm#RUTH)
Ruth had the good sense to listen to someone older and wiser than herself, and most of us women could learn a lot from her.
But her common sense is not the only reason the story is popular. Ruth was loyal to someone who needed her (her mother in law Naomi) and had been good to her in the past, even when the sensible thing would have been to cut and run. It turned out to be the right decision.
Naomi was financially destitute but she was street-wise, with a remarkable knowledge of the world and of men in particular. This proved more valuable than money. She told Ruth how to go about prodding Boaz, an eligible bachelor, into proposing – a skill that many young women today would like to learn. Ruth recognized good advice when she heard it, and acted accordingly.
Are all the women in the bible Proverb 31 Women?
Far from it! There were some women in the Bible that might not have been able to tick all the boxes of a Proverb 31 woman, but who in their own special way did fantastic things for their family and their communities. Consider the following (summaries credited to www.womeninthebible.net):
Sarah (Genesis 11 – Genesis 22)
Sarah’s life was blighted by the lack of a son. In a society that measured women’s worth by their fertility, Sarah was barren. In a spirit of noble self-sacrifice she offered her slave Hagar as surrogate mother to her husband Abraham. The plan back-fired: Hagar bore a son, Ishmael, and her status shot up in the tribe; Sarah became even more despised.
God came to Sarah’s rescue. She conceived a son, Isaac, whom she loved with the protective ferocity of a lioness. She became the foremother of the Jewish nation. (There are some Jeremy Kyle moments in this story, but you will have to read it yourself to get the gist!)
Rebecca (Genesis 24; Genesis 25:19-34; Genesis 27)
The woman who deceived and got the better of her dying husband – not a comfortable subject. People would prefer to read about characters who are clearly good or bad, with no ambiguities in their behavior. But this is not how people really are, and this is one of the stories in the bible that shows the good and bad in all human nature.
The story of Rebecca makes it clear that women can feel ambition, love greatly, deceive, and be self-sacrificing. Rebecca was a leader of people and an organizer of the future who used the abilities she had in the best way that she could.
The illustrations above are aimed directly at each one of us. Let us strive to be the best woman that we can be, not just on International Women’s day but every day – the world needs us!
P.S. There are many more stories of brave, courageous, humane women in the bible, you will find some of the stories rather juicy too! So get reading … http://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/
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